1) She says that she feels like a switch flipped in her head; she feels like her sex drive is completely absent right now. I suggested that she might need to talk to someone -- we could start with an MC.
2) She says that we deserve to be with someone that we're crazy about. I agreed and told her that wasn't a problem with me.
3) She won't say "I love you" right now because she doesn't mean it the same way I do. I told her that I understood that and it was fine with me.
4) She's flipped through my copy of His Needs Her Needs but feels like the advice isn't helpful because much of it was stuff she had tried before but it wasn't working. She also looked at my copy of The Love Dare but didn't have much of an opinion on it yet. I told her I stopped working on it when the surgery happened -- I didn't mention that I didn't pick it up again yet because of the DB'ing.
5) I told her that we needed to see an MC together; he or she would give us tools to work things out. I told her I could wait until she was back to work full-time, or even after the holidays. She seemed willing to do it but not ready to commit to anything.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
