H and I just discussed separation. He is thinking of moving in with his sister for a while (we need to discuss timeline). He is saying he will not be in R with OW and will date me. He says he will spend evenings with us, come over in mornings before school etc.
The upside I can see is that this will mean him having to own this choice and the reasons for the choice to our kids and everyone else. He can no longer pretend to be the good family man. Also, some space from each other could be good.
Downside- harder to DB as I keep hearing. More opportunity to cont. with OW in a secretive way. But, his sister is fully on board with supporting me in my DB approach, so that might help too.
Still mixed feelings. No clear decisions yet, just a discussion. But, H is over talking to his sister right now to see if she is open to the idea.
