Hi Rob, I've been away for a while - out of town visiting my son and friends on the East Coast - and before that I was just...well...away (in my head)...that said, I was reading along and following your threads over the last few weeks, but just never quite felt situated enough to say what I was thinking...I don't know that I do now, but I'll venture forth all the same and say that I'm glad you're getting back into your skin. It seemed like you had been derailed a while back - and were doing a lot of mind reading in an attempt to figure out what was best for you. After a few well-timed 2x4s, you seem to be back on track.
Sorry to hear about not being able to have your D on Fridays - (btw...that's yet another thing we have in common, my STBX talked me out of coaching my old son's soccer team as well...and then got very opposed to anything involving me/son/soccer...it was very odd). Thankfully, as our children grow older we get to talk a lot more with them about what works in their lives - and it's always a blessing when they can filter through their own issues of growing up and share with us the insights - the innocent insights - that come with being happy and in the company of a loving parent.
I hope you keep going with that focus on you. Done right, it's the healthiest thing you can do - since when you feel more complete on your own - anything you offer another person can be given with pure generosity - and without any expectations invading your mind and making you feel too needy.
