how to 180 when you've been too independent?

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Thanks for the quick replies.

I have done more vulnerable/opening up in the past 3 months than I ever thought possible. I have asked for so much for my friends, and am looking for opportunities to rebalance the karmic wheel to return favors. I have chatted with his mom, and sent a "thanks for making me part of your family" card to his father. These reaching out for and admitting the need for help are complete 180's for me.


It is good to hear that as long as he is in the affair he is gone. I need to know that. Came home tonight to find a letter from the local bank addressed to the gf at THIS ADDRESS. She is giving our house (I am living here; they moved to an apt) as HER address. Clearly I need to look out for some quick actions he is going to try to take to buy me out and move her in.

But...to go to my question--not that I am not hearing your words of wisdom--even if he is lost in his affair--how can I show him my changes? As Coach Laurie says, keep the bridge between us in case he should wake up and have a change of heart.

Thanks so much-