Can I save my marriage?

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So minor update.

H called after work tonight to discuss with me his horrible day. I don't know why I have to be on the receiving end of this but I was. I guess he is getting a lot of slack about Sat. night. Some of the guys look down on how he handled himself and he is very upset. H was almost in tears about it. He said he is going to have a hard week at work and doesn't want to associate with ANYBODY after today. Pretty much blaming me for why this is happening all for the "crying" episode. I didn't say much. Not sure how to handle it. He said he'd text in a few days to see the kids and that was pretty much it..a vent session.

A couple hours later he calls again, he is at his sis's in the basement, I could tell he was really down in his voice, and asks to talk to S3. They talk, I get back on the phone to pretty much say goodbye. He is nice now again and laughs about his conversation with S3. I remind him to call his nephew as its his b-day today, and to show up to the party on saturday. He thanks me and says goodnight.

I can't help but feel sorry for him. I know he did it to himself but it kills me to hear he is so down. I just want to make him feel better. But I didn't say much. Just kind of tried to reason with the situation. But he wasn't having it, he pretty much just wanted to vent. He also made mention that he went to the banquet and was who he was and if I had been who I "say" I am now with all the progress and changes I am making then this all wouldn't have happened. Okay.

So the guy really has issues. I was done with the contact! But he just keeps calling, and calling, and calling. I'm lost. I had an okay day. And I am just keeping on.