Okay--I guess I am not getting this at all. So should I not even be going to MC? Should I be completely dark until and if he gives up affair? What would Jesus do situationally every day--I have told him the adultery is wrong. Every day I wish I didnt kno about the A--would telling the OW'S H be what Jesus wants? He didnt proclaim it from the housetops but just told her to go and sin no more. I have encouraged him to stop lying and make up his mind. I cant control his behavior only my own. I dont call or text him anymore. Maybe it is a sign of weakness or sin that I still desire him, love him, he still is attractive to me despite his A--I dont act on it but I cant completely stop the feelings. Didnt you feel that way towards your wife even if you didnt say or act on it? I see him as a sinful human being just like the rest of us--his A isnt worse than my anger or pride or selfishness. What are realistic goals for me? Can I get to true detachment is 8 weeks? Isnt beginning to lose the fear of being alone, divorced a step along with stopping calls and texts? What would be a better step? Is going to C tommorrow a huge mistake? Puppy, you said you would practic what to say--I dont even know what to practice anymore. Tonight he came over and we watched som Denzel Washington movie about the medal of honor investigation--all about honor, lies, shame etc. H
