I've been thinking a lot about this today. I have brought up issues with my wife's moods in the past, and after really feeling like I hit a new low today, I thought, "I really need something". The problem is somewhat stigma, but also the fact that i really believe we can gain something from our feelings; that we have them for a reason. I don't want to be numb to the world around me. I'm one of those "no pain, no gain" guys, and I don't mean that in a macho way. However, I know that I am not focused on my kids or work; and you can make that work for a little while, but it has been over two months now. While I think I am a better dad then I was two months ago, I can be better.
I will find the book you recommended and start reading it.
I actually called my grandmother tonight and she came over to watch the kids while I did parent-teacher conferences and she said "why don't you stop by your friends and have a beer before you come home"...gotta love Wisconsin grandma's!
So I did just that. I talked with a friend who's divorce was final this week after a 21 year marriage. He was doing well and told me to "hang in there" (who else gets sick of hearing that line). He said that no matter what happens, make sure your head is clear and you are certain before you file...I was talking to him about filing since she doesn't seem to want to.
We talked in depth about that. There are two reasons she won't file; in my opinion.
1) She has doubts, realizes she needs to talk to an IC and clear herself before making this decision
or
2) she needs my money and my labor to make the house work until it sells.
Both seem realistic. I'd like to think it is #1, but even if it is #2, it buys me time. Time to work on myself and time for her to, hopefully, work on herself.
I feel better tonight, but still plan to talk to my Dr. about my sadness.
Thanks again, I love log posts, esspecially when they are filled with great information.
Ia pprecaite your willingness to post. I've been reading other peoples posts and haven't commented on many yet; I still feel like I am a long way from giving advice, but I appreciate those of you willing to post here. please know it is appreciated and helps me a lot!
