As to the "C or not to C" issue...IMHO BAD counselling is worse than nothing at all!!!
It CAN be done without C...although our few sessions with the GOOD MC really did allow issues and feelings to come forth (largely on my part) that I'd been holding in for fear of scaring CJ away.
We've only seen the MC once since last spring and seem to be doing fine!
Then on the other hand you have Tal's Wolfie who is making tremendous strides with the help of C....insights and changes he might NEVER have made on his own.
Each sitch and each person is different. How's that for no help at all!!!
