how to 180 when you've been too independent?

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avermont. you did not answer R2C's question.

Do not look at the last few months. Look at the whole 23 years.

Then look at what you would have added to the relationship to make it perfect.

I do not mean to attack.

We are just asking questions to learn more about you and your relationship. So we can better help you. If you need to see where we are coming from, please read our stories. Offer your advice.

You need to know that as long as he is in the affair, he is gone.
He is living in a very different land. His actions are very selfish and he does not care what these actions do to you. Nothing right now will make him turn to you. But you actions will chip away.

If you are already independent. Then your GAL will be very easy. As you have a life. This is a blessing. You can continue to live it and let this help and heal your heart. But to show you care, you say is a 180. So this is where family and friends come in. Indirect action is still action. Voices Carry. Do you get along with his family?

180's for you could be to read and learn about intimacy. Learn how to open up. You could show this in friendships. Become more caring, a better listener, offer advice and show how much you appreciate friendship. Show these to your friends and family. Lean on them during your time of need. And return the favour.

180's are about growth in areas that you find uncomfortable. Seek those concepts out and work on them.

And post away.

We will be here to help you.

P.S. This is a 180.