So, as expected XW replied about my taking D w/me on four Fridays as opposed to Thursdays so she could be our water girl at the Varsity games. S
he said no b/c the parenting evaluator had said I needed to pick up D once a week from school, that I would ruin all her plans she'd made on Thursdays when D is regularly scheduled to be w/me, I'd be losing one-on-one time w/D and D would be up until 10 or 10:30 on those Fridays which "isn't healthy for her."
Of course I was very disappointed and wrote back saying that if it turned out that D really enjoyed the experience, I hope she'll be willing to reconsider her stance for D's sake in the future b/c it isn't about me but about creating memorable experiences for D.
This is punishment for me b/c XW was the one who I allowed to talk me into stopping coaching before and she's really against anything I do that involves coaching, so she's making sure to keep D out of it as well.
It is sad and unfortunate that she can't see the positives for her own daughter b/c she's too fixated on taking out her anger on me. In the end, it will only backfire on her as D will grow to resent her for denying her doing things w/me.
Again, I'm disappointed, but who knows? It may actually work out in the future for both D and me.
