how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

On a scale of 1--10, the R is a 0, as he is happily ensconced in his A.

Too independent--he made it easy for me to take him for granted; I verbally resisted intimacy in talks about future of R, although I committed to a house, several re-fi of the house, talked about future projects. I didn't let him know how much I needed/appreciated him. We had very independent, busy lives. So for me to go about with friends, new hobbies, re-decorating, just makes it seem like "more of the same, not a 180 at all.