Moving on with my life!

[Startingover2]

Not much to talk about lately. Keeping busy with the baby and kids. Supposed to take my son to get his drivers license today but he has one marginal grade....so its put off for a few weeks.

Yesterday my d18 was on her FB and added married gf as a friend. I was taking a nap with baby and she came running in. She had a chat with mgf on IM:

MGF: Hi. I am glad you added me. I hope we can be friends for baby's sake. I know your mom hates me because I am now with your stepdad.
D18: My mom doesn't hate you. She has no reason to hate you. She feels sorry for you. There is alot you don't know.
MGF: Well, exh told me about his past and I really believe that people change when they are with the right person. He is such a different man when he is with me. I hope your mom can see that and be happy for him.
D18: Um, ok. She is happy and moved on. She doesn't like to see someone get used like she did.
MGF: Oh thank you. I have been used in the past and its no fun. but I can assure you exh is not like that.
D18: Here is my moms number. You should call her and chat. I think there are alot of things you can relate to.
MGF: Oh ok. I would love to clear the air with her. I have seen pictures of baby and can't wait to meet her. I want your mom to feel comfortable with me because I will be in babys life.
D18: Yeah, ok....


Delusional? She has no idea what he is capeable of. He and everyone is right...she is loony!

I really doubt that mgf will call me. I imagine exh will flip out and tell her not to. That was his worst nightmare when OW and I chatted and compared lies. Although it would be nice to tell and show her texts about what he has been up to.
I told d18 she probably shouldn't have added and chatted with her, but she said she didn't think she would really accept. Told d18 not to chat with her anymore.

[JAK58]

so2

Goes to show you how manipulating they can be. OW is obviously trusting every word he says.
Ya kinda have to pity her. She hasn't caught on yet.

I hope D18 quits talking to her as she doesn't need to be involved.

JAK

[K4D]

I found your thread. But it is going to take me a bit to go through it.

Kevin

[bright_new_day]

MGF: Well, exh told me about his past and I really believe that people change when they are with the right person. He is such a different man when he is with me. I hope your mom can see that and be happy for him.

Ba ha ha ha ha ha ha

Wow, someone thinks she's pretty special! That seriously has ne laughing my A$$ off! Why do these OW think they are so much better and their relationship (the one founded on lies and secrecy) is the right relationship?! It's is funny, but also pathetic! LOL

[Startingover2]

Yessss...I love others input.

JAK..I did tell d18 to just leave MGF alone. She said she just wanted to check her out after hearing everything. Didn't expect her to IM!

Kev...I know it will take a long time to go through this thread and the past ones. I have been at this a really long time and exh is the king of cake eaters and mind games. Love your input though.

BND..It gave me a laugh too. I have seen some of the stuff she puts to exh in the past and I swear she lives on some fantasy island! She calls him honey..oh you are so wonderful...perfect husband and father...I don't know why people have hurt you so much. Blech! There are reasons he has been divorced twice. There are reasons his older D's don't want to be with him. There are reasons I won't let baby go with him! Its not just a fluky thing!

Had a good morning with some gf's and baby. She is napping and I am catching up on some stuff.

[Startingover2]

Well I think MGF must have told exh about her conversation with my d18. He has only textd once today and it was very short....like he is mad.

WTF! Hes mad? Oh sorry...maybe it rocked the boat with mgf a bit with all the lies he has told. Serves him right! Poor baby...can't lie to everyone and expect to never get caught.

[JAK58]

[/quote].can't lie to everyone and expect to never get caught.[quote]

Yep, after a while they loose track of all the lies and it catches up with them.

Interesting to see how he trys to smooth this one over with you.
Maybe he will even try to blame it on you.

JAK

[Startingover2]

.can't lie to everyone and expect to never get caught.

Yep, after a while they loose track of all the lies and it catches up with them.

Interesting to see how he trys to smooth this one over with you.
Maybe he will even try to blame it on you.

JAK

I am sure that is exactly how he will handle it. He will blame it on me somehow.

Well, turns out he doesn't seem mad...so either mgf didn't say anything or he doesn't care. I don't know what is worse for him...her finding out about his lies, or me finding out what he says to her. I really doubt she will contact me, and really I hope she doesnt.

He sent some texts after that one and then offered to go get dessert for us. It was like 9:00 and baby was long in bed. I said thanks but no thanks.

[Startingover2]

A letter to myself:

Dear SO2:

I know you feel lonely. Its worse thinking about exh being with other women all the time and you sit home night after night with baby. Remember SHE is the most important thing. Her happiness, safety, and well being is your priority. Exh is a screwed up individual that you should have never gotten involved with. He doesn't love anyone but himself...hence the steady stream of women. This is nothing new. Remember way back when you were dating...? There was always someone he was talking to and just friends with. Yeah right. He is a loser that needs his ego stroked and he doesn't know which way is up. Look at who he is talking to! MGF..seriously a freakshow. Then there is **..oh shes a dandy. Who the heck has cybersex on FB!? High caliber woman there! He traded his family for that crap? Yuck.

Don't feel sad. When you crawl into bed at 9:00 everynight kiss your baby. He doesn't deserve either of you.

** Not sure why I wanted to write that. Exh just came by and his phone was going off but he wouldn't answer. Irritating.

[S.T. _I Made It!]

I feel like the ugliest, lonliest person in the world.

this is why you are not seeing any attention. IMHO. it's a cycle, you need to build your confidence, and build your positivity, and I believe you will see more attention thrown your way. I'm sure people have a sense of kinda staying at a distance with you because they can sense the tension in your life.

just my thought. you just keep focusing on those positives and be thankful for your life every single day.

and don't feel bad for hoping that your m could be saved. there is nothing wrong with wanting that. It is only wrong if you allow him to come back as he is, and if you allow yourself to dwell on this hope and not move forward.

on the cs papers, if it were me, I would write something and let him know that you are making this decision. I think even though he will be pissed, it will be lessened, and I think it is the more considerate thing to do, if you let him know than if he just all the sudden gets some paperwork. and yes, I realize that he isn't even close to considerate, but 2 evils don't make good. Just make it all about D and how you know that he loves her and wants the best for her (you say this so he doesn't go straight to being defensive) and you do to, and your attorney said this was the best way to protect her well being.
just MHO