Good morning, Pam. Welcome to Piecing. I just posted in your new thread .
Frankly, I do not think we are connecting better. It is only that since he has been sick and I have been busy we have gotten into the 'good roommates' routine. It is an eddy, a temporary lull in otherwise turbulent waters. And as in eddies, there is a trick to getting out without bailing out.
For the moment, however, I am enjoying my mental vacation.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Not sure if when I start my regular thread I will stay here or not but figured would get the most input on my question here this morning. Since my other thread locked overnight.
I am sorry you don't feel you are connecting better. I thought maybe the 'good roommates' routine was building a connection base to step up further on.
I will keep pulling for you that you can pull out of the eddies without having to bail!
I don't even think you have had to post your other two counts to ten have you?
So if you are on a mental vacation, does that mean you found the off switch? Because if you did you need to share that vital piece of information!!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Thanks for your support Pam. Nice to know you'll be around in case I need an Eskimo roll.
Yes, I've been wondering about the off-switch thing. I think I may have hit it accidentally. Because it feels turned off, quite of 'beyond good or evil.' Eirie...
The problem is I cannot for my life remember HOW or WHEN I did it. Ain't it frustrating? I hit the darned switch and I do not remember how!
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
That is great for you but leaves the rest of us out in the cold!
I know you know about Patience, but I do think there is something to do with steady, level and time.
I know I have been reading over here for a while and just in the past month or so Talitsa, Shiny and Sage's situations have all taken a giant step forward.
I would wonder if that can be done without a C, but as far as I know Sage's H isn't seeing anyone he is just turning around on his own, and I don't think CJ was regularly seeing anyone either.
Anyone just a bit of encouragement, keep paddling!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Quote: I would wonder if that can be done without a C, but as far as I know Sage's H isn't seeing anyone he is just turning around on his own, and I don't think CJ was regularly seeing anyone either.
Hey guys!
My h hasn't been seeing a C (as pam mentioned) nor have we been to MC. There are times when I wish that we did have that extra resource because I think it would help us see solutions when we get stuck...but we HAVE turned things around by following the DB techniques...Michele sure knows what she's talking about!
Strangely enough...I was talking to MY C a few weeks ago about being concerned that another affair could happen more easily because h hasn't gone to a C and she said....I don't think there's any evidence that counseling prevents affairs from happening....She said she thought that each sitch was different and may need a different set of "tools" to fix things.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I sure hope it can be done without a C, because my H sure refuses to go back to one.
Count two more in the sick list. My D had a tummy ache and just vomited all over the floor in front of the TV. I filled a whole bucket cleaning the mess up. And I feel tired and have a headache... I suspect we are 'fixing to' come down with the same bug Daddy brought home.
He is in his Houston day trip today. We have to go pick him up from the airport later. I am waiting for the pool guy to leave so that I can go check on at work for a while (sick child on tow).
Suspect it is no paddling this weekend (darn).
Thanks God for the off switch (regardless of how and where to find it). I cannot be sick and worried about my M at the same time.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Hey twin. Many things happening and i hope everyone is feeling better.. and that you didn't catch it. Being realistic you probably did, but we tend to get caught on our Florence Nightingale role and onl notice we're sick ourselves when everyone else is fine So just in case, do take care of yourself.
HAd an extremelly busy week. ANd there I was thinking it was a small week - we had thanksgiving here in canada - and a relaxing one and suddenly there's all this deadlines appearing out of nowhere!!! Grrrr.
ANywayI thin kwhat you see as a "no improvement " in the situation is one of those pauses that come up every once in a while, where everything seems to stay still until another jump comes trough.
I've been trough quite a few of those. And didn't really like them until things started moving again - thankfully most times forward, but sometimes backwards too.
Have I got something new to share but I'll just post it in a bit. Now I am going to try to read some more posts. There is so much insight in each one of them!
Hugs to you nighshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
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