Sorry I wasn't around last night. I am so sorry for you that you had to hear such lies coming out of your STBXW. Several people said it, that this is projection, plain and simple. If you're right and she was sexually abused by her F, and not just physically abused, she is carrying around A LOT OF BAGGAGE. And if her feelings for you changed around the time he passed, all the more proof that she is giving all of her negativity to the destruction of your M.
I am sorry for her if she was sexually abused as a child, a hard thing to overcome, I'm sure. This sitch will lead to sexual dysfuntion more times than not as an adult.
The scenarios you described are not sexual abuse in any way, shape, or form. And the Stepkids, it will all work itself out. You just keep taking the high road in this and the truth will come out.
I am glad to hear that you have compassion for her today. She's the one with the problems. Yes, she has tried to hurt you so she doesn't have to feel all the pain herself. No, she made sure to be very generous with doling out the pain. Put it in its place and move forward.
Gotta love all the support we get on these boards!!!
BIM
BIM M 39 / H 40 / S 9 / S 6 / T 20 / M 11
my sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1828127#Post1828127
