Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Gardener]

Thinker,

I have been finding that the combination of the following 3 thoughts helps me the most:

1) Accept the truth. The M is over. My W does not love me and does not want to try. She truly believes the best thing for her is to leave the M. I can not change this or control it. "I am already divorced, it just hasn't happened yet"

2) Don't take it personally - Have Compassion. My W does not want this. She did not choose it. She is not doing this to hurt me, or out of malice. She is doing this because to her it is the only option available. She is as sad about the end of the M as I am. She is in more pain than I am.

3) Where there is change, there is opportunity.: This is an opportunity for me to move and grow and build a better life. In the end, I will be happier than I would have been otherwise. (I have a list of things that will be better in any future R, with Mrs. Thinker or someone else)

If I haven't thanked you for sharing this yet, I do so now. Very good. As you may know, I'm already a strong proponent of this.