Can I save my marriage?

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Swimmingupstream,

I thought alot about this today. I need this mindset. I need to raise my self esteem. You are right. Thank you for opening my eyes up to that. I do want some power, I am equally in this just as much as him. I shouldn't have to bend over when he says to. And I do let him treat me that way, its sad. I guess mentally I think if I am this awesome, nice girl who never gets angry, never starts fights then maybe he will like to be around that.

This has ALOT to do with self esteem and until you start living for yourself and saying H stay out of my email and back off and taking your power back then he will continue to walk all over you. It is not over until it's OVER. The changes are for YOU..not HIM! He is lucky you are even speaking to him considering how he treats you..but he treats you like that because he CAN...S

Sadgirl, you just have such spunk, and attitude and independency in you its ridiculous. You give me such a spurt of energy everytime you comment. You've got it going on thats for sure!