New here, this is my story...

[Gardener]

HelpMe,

He said that I need to do exactly what I have been doing, but even more consistently (talking about DBing here).

Good. This you can do. You know how and it gets easier with practice.

I let DB-ing go by the wayside in the C session last night. I talked about my desire to stay married, etc...

Right or wrong, in the MC meetings is the one place I didn't DB either (except validate and things like that)

I was upset and confused and would prefer not to talk about issues such as finances and holiday schedules until after the weekend, so that I have a chance to level myself and think rationally.

Good idea. Now stick with it. Go dark. No initiation, no replies until after the weekend

Has anyone taken depression medication? I need to go see the docotr, but I would like some information from anyone who has. How long did it take to help? What brand did you use? Did it help? Did it make you a zombie? I don't want to NOT feel, I just don't want to feel like nothing.

I have and still do. Since last November. Lexapro. About 2 weeks into it, it kinda lifted. About a week later I had two consecutive days where it lifted. Third week, I began enjoying my days! Oh, I had been enjoying things and trips and movies and such, but suddenly I just enjoyed the day and thought,"Chr!st, how long have I been like this?! How long has it been since I enjoyed the day. Just the day, whatever it was?". Within another few days, it was lifted. I thought, "Wow, I remember this guy!" Some potential sexual side effects for some people at first (like me But at that point life was celibate anyway )

Normally, I'm a nutrition and supplement freak and eschew pharmaceuticals, but I needed fast, effective relief.
I have since read The UltraMind Solution by Mark Hyman and took the quizzes in the book to see what amino acid (neurotransmitter food) I was deficient in. Followed that up with Amino acid blood work which confirmed the book's quizzes. Started the suggested regimen of amino acid supplements (inexpensive),. That made me feel even better and I am now being weaned off Lexapro.

Looong answer, HelpMe, but that's been my experience, Hope it helps. Get the book. In addition to it being scientifically proven (and anecdotally proven in my sitch) he makes the common sense argument that while meds do help, let's face it: we are not depressed because our bodies or brains have a deficiency in Lexapro, or Zoloft or Prozac. Those things don't even exist in our bodies. They help with the symptoms to be sure, but neurotransmitter-feeding amino acids cure the cause, not just ameliorate the symptoms.