P17- Give yourself more credit. Your advice is PERFECT and helped to get me back on track again:) I was lost in the moment and forgot that this is about me not him..fixing me first...He is responsible for himself and I need to start focusing on me..I have focused on him for 10 years..HE should be the one BEGGING for ME to take HIM back!!!!! In the meantime, I am backing off and giving him space. If he chooses to trust me and talk to me going forward then great..and if not..HIS LOSS! Same with the ring..personally I think it bothers him a bit that he is not wearing it..oh and he did give it back to me..the reason I think this is whenever we are around my family or friends or his family he puts his hands in his pocket..but whatever...that is his deal. He started this and now he is going to have to deal with the new ME! The better me. Yeah ME!!!! P17--Thank you! I am going to try to validate his feelings and maybe in time he can change. The alcohol problem---that is a HUGE problem..and his past that he has not dealt with..well..he has a long road ahead of him..but for now I am enjoying finding myself again:)
