Oh and one more thing..stop being so hard on yourself:) you are doing great! This will take A LOT of time..I look at like weight loss..It took a long time to put it on and it takes a lot of time to take it off...Your marriage did not get this way over night. I am actually GLAD this happened to me because I would have continued to be need person that I was..begging for my H to love me or stay with me..