Getting it right the next time around is so much more important to me.
But you DID get it right, the unfortunate circumstance is the other side didn't.
Anyway, my point was, it seems that everybody's X teams up on us all with the same kind of goofball voodoo attacks at the same time, and it's been relatively quiet lately and it seems it's given the bulk of us a chance to regroup and gain focus.
dday out [stocking the bunker with can goods and twinkies]
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
I do know there were things I could have done differently. So I don't place all the blame on him. The A, yes the blame there is all his but not for any problems we had. It is so strange to me now when on our anniversary(less than a month before the bomb)that year, he was telling me how he really wanted us to spend more time together and I was telling him the same thing.
People are different and there will always be some issues, I just need to learn how to not let the little stuff become big stuff and to work really hard at not getting in a rut.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Of ocurse not all of it was his fault. But you acknowledged your part, did you not? You wanted to fight it out, did you not? THAT, is getting it right. Throwing your hands up in the air and saying "ehhh, piss on it, this doesn't work" and walking away without even trying for a "better" R with someone else, is being weak, cowardly and wrong.
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Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
We all know where we went wrong. And we experienced what came out of it. It's healthy to take your share of the blame. It's part of the growing process. It would be a shame not to learn by it after all the heartache and pain. xxx K
So on to the next steps. I think I already told you guys 2 of my 5 goals for The Secret have happened, though not the way I had planned by any means. I am out of debt except for my house and car. I got my cute and if I may say sexy car. Next I want to get my house the way I want it: repaint, declutter,replace some fixtures, redo some rooms etc and then after that get back to a better weight.
I think those two go hand in hand. As I change the house, I change me. It is inevitable. Besides my house has that cute car to live up to. lol
kat
And Dylan you are right. I fought for my marriage and my family. He is a coward(which I already knew)and he doesn't know how to fix anything. He is really big into replacing. A couple of years ago we had an ice storm. We lost power for 2 days. So no heat except for the fireplace. Ex had a house he was renting that had radiators he just had to light the pilot lights. He said I will just use some extra blankets because even though he had been told how to light them, thought it was too much trouble. What kind of a$$ lets his kids be cold when he had the capability to keep them warm? I am soooo much better off.
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
My X is the same. Couldn't fix anything; let the kids freeze when the heater broke, and put his money into the OW and moving out. Lately, when I hear guys talk about fixing stuff or repairing stuff and tools and stuff, I think that is so hot!!!
One of my favorite stores is Home Depot, the other is Office Depot. The idea of fixing and organizing...wow. I haven't been thinking of a guy doing all that stuff for me but with me would certainly be a blessing!(and pretty hot too)
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
