Sandy, the guilt thingwe discussed a bit. He said he doenst feel blocked by it. Not wanting to sound arrogant, but he is wrong about that. Sometimes I can FEEL the guilt even when he looks at the kids. Good thing he doesnt seem to feel ashamed and embarassed. I read that shame is really bad and blocks progress. And it's a "superficial" feeling, having nothing to do with core values, just with the loosing face factor. When he apologised to my parents and friends I was shocked. He even seemed a bit "brave" to me, you know what I mean? K
