You should not be engaging at all. I don't know if you are trying to get me annoyed beyond belief and that back peddling you are doing or if you are just that dense.
Who says it's only one of those options?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement