[hoosiermama]

And who do they leave for? Unavailable men who are fun to be with, a little dangerous, and, in effect, treat them like sh*t. They go for men with a more masculine edge.

sorry, but let me jump in here and state the obvious...I understand the whole "bad boy" masculinity thing. But I would never consider someone who treated me like sh*t to be hyper-masculine. Real strength and masculinity come from having the self-confidence to differentiate, and treat a partner with kindness and respect while still having self-respect. Some women have been misled into thinking that poor treatment means "he really loves me." And that leads down some horrific roads.