Honestly, I think with the divorce rate being what it is today, no matter how much mud slinging you do, the court won't even look at it. All they HAVE to care about is the kids being in a sturctured enviornment. That's what I got out of my D process. At one point my own L said, "look, youre getting divorced like it or not, you are, so the more you try and point out her A, is just the more time and money you waste".
Sad, yes, but that's how it goes.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Mine didn't have to go to court either, but my L used OW against my xh in mediation because he refused to sign the agreement as I had it drawn up. She told him that was fine, she was looking forward to calling his gf to the stand so she could question her about the 8 other D cases in the county that she was named in as the adultery partner. My xh's mouth hit the table with that one. Yes indeed, he picked a real winner didn't he? Did I mention that every one of those D's involved a police officer that she was dispatching? Yes, she preys on the weak. Now look what she is stuck with! LOL!
GA is not a no fault state. The judge assigned to my case is one of the toughest on cheating spouses. Too bad I didn't want to drag it through court....not like it would have done me any good though.
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T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
She told him that was fine, she was looking forward to calling his gf to the stand so she could question her about the 8 other D cases in the county that she was named in as the adultery partner. My xh's mouth hit the table with that one.
ahhhh,
Petition to dissilution of marriage.......$195 on debit Mastercard
Mediation counseling...........$500 on debit Mastercard
Quick witted attorney to point out a skank in the room........... "priceless"
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
It was priceless. He had no idea obviously from the look on his face. When I gave my L her name she ran into her office and pulled 3 cases that she herself had handled where she was the OW and then found 5 more. CRAZY!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
It was priceless. He had no idea obviously from the look on his face. When I gave my L her name she ran into her office and pulled 3 cases that she herself had handled where she was the OW and then found 5 more. CRAZY!
eek, I'd throw another liner in there, but I dont' know what a STD screening costs on debit Mastercard?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Karen, what do you want the agreement to look like? I know you've been working with your L for quite awhile. Since you're so close to your d day, it's important to be clear on what you have to have and what you'll settle for. I didn't remember reading anywhere about what you want the custody agreement to look like when it's final so I was just wondering.
Well, I really need to have the same amount of child support/alimony I have now, at least on a temp. basis until I could hopefully in the future get a full-time job at some point.
I haven't decided about the child support stuff. I'm thinking we could leave it as is now, but I would want Tuesday nights b/c of the activities my kids like to do. Or revert back to the Wed. nights and every other weekend we did for a few months until the latest change. If we do the Wed. night, the kids would miss out on our Wed. activities though. If X has Mondays as he does now, it's likely we'll continue to have issues with me getting school info as it has been the past 2 months.
I would like to have something firm, because X has changes the visitation every few months which I don't think is good for the kids.
I'm trying to write down this next couple days my defense/offense I would like the L to present. I know what issues X will bring up (lie about) and will tell her those. My issues with him are his anger issues, lack of sharing the kids' school info: the class newsletters and project info that D9 gets on Mondays. He didn't give me any of the info again this week. Maybe that he makes decisions based on punishment/control even if it will affect the kids. Any other ideas?
I'm going to type up his visitation over the past 18 months also, from nearly any to now. He says its b/c I was homeschooling he didn't ask for them more, but actually when you're hsing your schedule is more flexible, and doesn't make sense.
The judge assigned to my case is one of the toughest on cheating spouses. Too bad I didn't want to drag it through court....not like it would have done me any good though. 
