I think the information about how adulterous wives percieve their husbands' attempts at "winning them back" is key: it creates more contempt and disgust on their parts.
Our generation of men already suffers from a lack of masculinity and decisiveness. This has partly caused women to want to leave. Mis-reading the DB philosophy into something that looks like appeasment only makes this worse.
And who do they leave for? Unavailable men who are fun to be with, a little dangerous, and, in effect, treat them like sh*t. They go for men with a more masculine edge.
In all our cases, and yours P17...it seems to be the case that you need to let your adulterous wife stop calling the shots.
Another insightful guy is Cunningham, who talks a lot about male/female attraction and male strength/dangerousness in his ebook Making Her Happy. Check it out. Theoden
