Can I save my marriage?

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Thanks R2C, when I said rage. I didn't quite mean it like that. He was just really angry. He would never be violent or take it out wrongly, he is a police officer. He is a good person. He was just mad. When I said rage, I just meant more mad than normal.

Its almost as if everything has been going so good,and i've been making the necessary changes and he was just sitting and waiting for me to screw up. And sure enough...I did.

I take too much responsibility for this whole situation. I take full responsibility for not logging out of my email last night. That's the only way he got in, cause he doesn't know my password. I should have covered my tracks, but at the same time, He shouldn't have gone in there. And I didn't say anything bad about him he just heard bad talk from other people. Its a shame he is taking it out on me.

Just a question for you experienced ones that have been through a lot and have read and seen more than I, do you think this email sitch is detrimental to my marriage? My best friend thinks not, she thinks I just need to give him time to simmer down, and keep doing what I'm doing. But I want to know what some of you think?

Kettricken, you're right. He does know what buttons to push. Its too bad I let him push them. That is a new goal I'm going to set, maybe a new 180! No reacting to those button pushing situations. Its new to me so it may take some work. Do I just let him be now? No contact except for the kids?