I call total BS on this after-the-fact characterization of "sexual abuse". Yeah, you were probably pushing the envelope a bit there, *in 20/20 hindsight*. But guess what? she has a tongue, she could have told you in no uncertain terms to knock it off (the awake part, anyhow). As for the asleep part, how ignorant do you have to be to NOT know that erections are a common, nay, expected outcome of spooning like that? Is she *eleven years old*??? I think not.
If an adult woman has an ongoing problem with something that's happening in her bed, she has not just the ability but responsibility to leave that bed.
Big Girl Panties.
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Under the circs, I think it's wise to carefully consider not being alone with her.
I SECOND this! And, and, and! I would pronounce that to her, as well. "STBXW, based on your resent attempts to bastardize our sex life with your fantastic claim that I abused you, I have decided to restrict our meetings to public places or have a third party in the room." Let her know that you recognize the need to protect yourself against her slander. She'll say you are overreacting to which you will reply, "Gee, abused STBXW...wouldn't you feel safer that way, too? You're the one flying the abuse flag."
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