It is good your H is showing that he wants to be an active father in your child's life. Still, there are consequences to one's actions, and his decision to seek the end of the M even before the child was born does not weigh in his favor. From my viewpoint, his pursuit of an A and the threat that is undoubtedly having on the child's prospects for family and security, just tells me he is more concerned for himself than for anyone else, including his own child.
We can all pray, however, that your H will look at the impending consequences of his selfish actions and decide that what he really wants is to be in line with what is truly best for his family, and to not abandon it, which is what he would be doing in a D. In the end, leaving his child's mother for another person is one of the most harmful things he can do to his family.
I would suggest you do nothing for or against letting your WAH feel the full impact of what his actions & decisions are going to cause.
God willing, he will wake up before it is too late.
