She said to establish a united front with the kids. No blame should be put on either parent. We communicated to them that it wasn't H's nor my fault that he moved out. I know this might not work in your sitch as your kids appear to be quite a bit older than mine. But this approach has worked well for us.
The only thing I don't like about this is it really does let the WAS off the hook. They don't have to account for what they are doing to the family. I am really against this method. But on the other hand, if you are trying to keep things peaceful in hopes that it will be easier for the WAS to come home when they come back to their senses, maybe it is a better approach.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
