"From what I know she clearly and regularly communicated happiness and concern over your relationship over an extended period of time.:" I resisted replying, "Maybe to you. But not to me she didn't!"
This is common. WAS says they said they mentioned trouble over and over. Often they didn't.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh