Trapt made a very good observation and one you need to keep in mind. Anger can cause us to do things with didn't intend.
The kids reaction to this isn't weird. Their family structure has been dismantled and they are reacting to it by coming home to roost. They have problem come to realize the stability that mom and you provided and now that the stability is gone are starting to realize everything they complained about wasn't really that big of a deal. Plus I am sure in their minds somewhere....they are looking at their behavior and wondering if they had some cause in the situation.
Good job on the phone switch and of course your wife is going to be angry about it....you did something she didn't think you would do.
