Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Hi, Nocodeblues,
just saw your reply but I was typing another at the same time.
The parenting plan is based on what the experts' recommendations for parents who want 50% custody. It doesn't have overnight visits until baby is 6 months.

I have been trying soooo hard to think of what is best for our baby and not be selfish. As for H being a good dad, I know he is not living here, but he totally takes care of him, plays with him, feeds him, bathes him when he is over. So I can't say that he is a total deadbeat dad. Just not true.

Letting him take our baby 4 hours on Saturday is in the legal paramaters if we were divorced or legally separated. I am open to hearing ideas about this, I just wanted to explain the rationale. Thanks!!