As for attraction, I wish my overwhelming physical attraction to her would go away! Hopefully, not seeing her regularly and certainly not seeing her naked will help. At this moment, we still sleep (naked sometimes) in the same bed and I still see her in the shower etc - it kills me! Living celibate for a year, or longer sure will be easier without the temptation of my beautiful WAW in front of me.
I realize this is kind of a moot point since she's moving out imminently .. but I'm going to give you the same advice I gave Thinker. If it's killing you to wander around in the candy store while you're forbidden to eat any candy, then stop. Stop sleeping with her. Ask that she cover up a bit around the house, or at least you avoid situations where you will see her naked to the best of your ability. Nobody else is going to take care of you in this area; you have to do it.
I would hazard a guess that either she doesn't know how much (and negatively) this affects you, or does know and gets off a little on the power. Either way, do you want to enable that?
Besides which, it's a good demonstration of the *reality* of the separation she is choosing. It's all fun and games to go out drinking and still come home to a warm body in your bed. Stop serving cake. IMHO.
While we're on the subject, I think you need to consider carefully what *she* would need to do to win *you* back, should it arise. Addressing her drinking would certainly appear on that list. Not trying to get you into the snatching-at-crumbs "hopeful" headspace; more like pointing out that being married, cherished, and forgiven is a privilege for *both* partners. Don't sell yourself short.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
