Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

I should add some details...been together 5+ years, "married" 4+ (if this year counts). WH has been a very good husband. I have been a pretty good wife; the LM dropped off a little there due to exhaustion and I had a (benign) fibroid tumor that was wreaking havoc on my hormones but had it removed.My libido returned, I lost 30 pounds,then he started befriending HER.

We agreed to let me stay home for a year to be with our baby.
So since August, I have been trying to GAL, not discussing our relationship, been cheerful and confident, working on areas that need improvement, and I forgot to add that I told him I did not want the D (when it was brought up 2 weeks ago) and it was his decision entirely.