B54, Your H controls you by getting upset. You trained him that for him to get his way all he has to do is get upset/sad/angry and you will get right in line. You will defer your own feelings to suck up to him. You are not responsible for his feelings.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.