Had a good therapist appt. the other day, she is starting to go tough love on me by forcing our discussions to be about the changes that I need to start working on and not on the M problem. She told me that I need to "divest" a little from the R and start moving forward. I had to smile thinking about DBing because I realized that divest = detach. So much of what my therapist said sounded like DB!
W has been really nice lately with lots of little physical gestures (touching, hugging etc.). She went to one of her courses the other night and even texted me throuout the night to show me what she was doing. She actually brought me a romantic card when she came home and it was signed "love WAS". It almost felt like we had turned a major corner except that there still has been no additional discussion of the A or OM.
I am trying hard this week to not analyze her actions and not worry about the outcome. Her recent kindness is very perplexing indeed though. I keep wondering if it is possible that confronting an A can stop it in it's tracks or did it just knock things off balance for a bit.
It is what it is and I can't control it, just have to focus on losing the weight I recently gained back!
