Coach, I tried to find your thread but I can't. LOL You are such a great person so I wanted to see what you went and are going through. Just want to say thank you for replying to my posts.
Hi GF, FYI if you click on the poster's name, a drop down list appears, click on view all posts & you can find every thread that person posts on. Hope this helps! All the best, LFA
H called again last night. For no contact he is calling a lot anymore. He usually would go through D13 to tell me something but he is doing this on his own. Which he shouldn't get her in the middle, but he called to let me know he still didn't know about health insurance (which meds. were covered).
I just said okay, thanks gotta go, bye. He didn't sound to happy that I was hanging up so quickly, but that is what I'm suppose to do right? I use to be the one trying to stay on the phone with him.
Need some advice on how to approach H. He called and told me about him reconsidering changing health insurance programs and now I'm worried. I always looked things over and took care of them and I don't want him to mess things up. He has a learning disability and I'm afraid he is going to go cheaper and not realize about the Dr.s me and the kids have.
Anyone have any suggestions on how I can approach him on looking this stuff over? How do I put it to him without insulting him? I don't want him to know that I don't think he can do it on his own without messing things up.
*****PUPPY, SHINING THE "COACH LIGHT" UP INTO THE SKY*****
Coach is really good at coming up with good ways to phrase things like this. I'll take a stab at it, tho, and I'll start by saying YOU NEED TO CARE MORE ABOUT YOU AND THE KIDS, AND YOUR INSURANCE COVERAGE, THAN YOU DO ABOUT BEING "INSULTING" TOWARD YOUR HUSBAND!!!
OK, I feel better now that I got that off my chest.
I would simply say "If you don't mind, I would like to have some input into this decision, since it affects me and the kids as well. Why don't you put together a few options, and then we can sit down one evening next week and go over them together?"
Think win-win-win, good for your husband, your kids and you.
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not realize about the Dr.s me and the kids have.
Is this your only concern? If not list them out.
"H, I am glad you are taking the lead on deciding which healthcare plan is best for our family. Here are some key factors you need to be aware of when making the choice................ The reasons they are important is because................ If I am not explaining myself clearly, let me know and we can work it out another way. It would mean a lot to me if you would go over your choice with me before you send it in. The medical benefits you provide for us are appreciated by me. Thanks for listening."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Thanks Puppy and Coach. I think Coach hit the nail on the head on how to approach this. My concerns are the Drs., co-pays, and prescriptions that all of us are on.
Puppy you are right about being insulting to my H. Sorry about that one, we are more important I guess I worded it wrong when I wrote in here.
Coach, I'm confused as far as the win-win-win, thing.......can you explain better. Is it because he actually called and included me in something (communication)? Instead of just doing what he wanted and made a decision for the whole family.
