Sometimes I feel as if I reading my own posts..I hope you do not take offense to this as I know I would not react in that way..it took me a LONG LONG time to get this...and starting to do more things for me...but...Your self worth should not be based on being his wife. As I see it you already have the power..you just need to take that power back. You cannot let his moods affect you..you cannot worry about what he is thinking or feeling right now. You need to take YOUR life back. You can do this! I promise..I was so relaiant on my husband to be loved that I failed to see that the one person that I was not getting love from is myself. You have to love yourself first. If you are anything like me your husband may be quite surprised when you STOP moving mountains for him..when you STOP caring about him and STOP analyzing him and realize that this may or may not work out..I know you love your husband but right now can't you see that you are being a better person than he is. Take care of yourself and your children..begin to be a role model for your children. Show them you are strong and independant and you are not defined by your H. Find a passion..mine are..yoga, pilates, running, cycling, art, music..I know I have SO much going for me..and I always had..I put my H on a pedastool..I am finally starting to see that he is not superman..he is just a man..who has issues...who fails to realize that he is responsible for himself and fails to see he has a wonderful woman that loves him uncondintionally...but I cannot make him see that. When your H feels like he is going to lose you and you FINALLY start moving on with your life that is when he will come back to you. You have to take that step. I am SO stubborn and blame myself for EVERYTHING...but you have to let go. There are no guarentees in life but one thing that is is how you treat yourself and how you see yourself. Life is SO short..why waste it worrying about someone that you cannot change..We cannot make our H love us we can only love ourselves..Hang in there. I know this is hard but I see a strong independant wonderful woman waiting to get out and show H..hey I dont need you...