So, Sydney is doing just great today! Too bad I already called her in sick last night...technically there is a "24-hour rule" for going back to school after vomiting anyway. Although I doubt it was a virus, I bet she just ate something that didn't agree with her since she only threw up for a few hours and then slept all night through...
MI, I have not talked to my pastor about dating. Good question! I suppose I could mention it to him. I guess because I am not out there looking to sleep with anyone or find my next husband I hadn't given that part much thought. I am just trying to have some fun interactions that remind me I am still a woman and not just mom to my kids. Although I do love being mom to my kids!
I don't get this pastor thing...are you supposed to live your life by what he says? From what I read so far, he seems like a pretty level headed person and I would be willing to bet that he would give you the green light.
He is awesome, John! I absolutely love him. However I am in a bit of a dilemma over my pastor these days...
He is by far the best pastor I have ever had except for one in Pasadena, but they are neck and neck. Anyway, he told our congregation in July/August that he felt a call to do something else and would be leaving the church in November. This Sunday is his last Sunday.
Well, I asked him after church last week where he was going. Turns out, he isn't going anywhere! He felt led to start a new, non-denominational Christian church right here in town.
He said he wants to grow a church with a more contemporary approach to spreading God's word. Which would include more current music, probably bands, a more active youth membership, etc. Our church is 70% over the age of 55 so it is not happening here...
Our church (he said) has been surprisingly supportive of his move. I am hoping they have services at a different time so I can go to both churches for awhile and figure out where I fit best.
John, you are right, the one thing Pastor Perry has been consistent on since I first talked to him last winter was that Dan as he is now, is bad news. And I should stay very far away from him... In fact Pastor's wife is his second wife, his first wife cheated and left him. So he totally 'gets it'...He has been with his current wife for 20 years now.
I'd be willing to bet he wouldn't be in agreement.
The question is this:
BBJ,are you M'd or single?
Answer - M'd. Until there is a final D decree you are M'd.
Do M'd people date?
Answer - No.
Although I understand the motivation, I don't agree with dating until a D is final. Everyone has to make their own decisions of course.
Yes, BBJ was left a long time ago and has had to live as a single person but she's not really single. There is too much risk of possibly hurting someone else during the fallout of your D. Even though you aren't looking for a R, you and anyone you date could get hurt.
Just something to think about.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Sounds like you pastor is heading in the direction my church took when it changed it's name and location about 5 years ago. I go to a Baptist church but you wouldn't really know it by looking. Ultra-contemporary worship services, lots of multi-media, a rockin' band, very contemporary music. The message is the same though. The belief system is the same, just wrapped in a package that speaks to more people who may not have been raised in a traditional church setting and are more comfortable. We wear jeans, shorts, suits, dresses....whatever you feel like. Very comfortable and non-judgemental so it speaks to more people.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I'll defer to mishka422, she is much better at making the point I am trying to.
The reason I asked about the Pastor is because I know BBJ values his opinion and has sought his counsel during this and I was curious what he would say about it.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
I enjoyed dating when I was separated while the D was pending. And I had no guilt that I was still legally married in the view of the state and courts. In my mind, I was already divorced. That is why I had no emotions when signing and getting word that my D was official in the eyes of the court.
I would suspect that Bobbi Jo's church has a similar view in that marriage is in the heart and not a piece of paper.
