This is my first time here and here is my story. My wife and I have been married for 6 years and have three small children (3yrs, 7month twins). We have always had a somewhat rocky relationship with a complete inability to communicate with each other about our feelings and issues. There is no infidelity, substance abuse, abuse, etc.
About a year and a half ago she asked me for a divorce. At the time I had a great deal of anger management issues and agreed to completely change my life. That night i was fighting for my life and convinced her to stay. I went to some counseling (quit to soon) and decided to be a positive person. After a short time things got much better and i relaxed. We moved into a bigger new house after i got a promotion and we had the twins. Things have drifted apart for months maybe longer. We both have realized that there are problems but nobody did anything about it. I was depressed and scared to approach her.
She has now completely disconnected from our relationship. She says that she has no feelings for me, doesn't think she ever will, and has given up. She doesn't believe that we can do anything and its just dead becasue she says "we just don't work and we never have" She thinks we shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. I still love her and want to work on things so we can be happy and reconnect together. I am suffering very strong depression now and haven't eaten for days. Help
