Changing Man

[TrentC]

2) (Here we go). Mr. & Mrs. G always had one rip-roarin' fantastic sex life, thank God. In addition to that fact, I want you to picture thisokay, consider this: Even when not having sex, Mr. & Mrs. G got to bed, spoon fashion, me behind (no pun). Well, that can lead to unintended arousal, as we all know. For 15 years she would giggle, grind back and ask me if I wanted to ML.
Last year, she suddenly hated it. It kept happening, naturally. She said I was doing it on purpose. I usually wasn't, but sometimes - sometimes - I did do a little nudge-nudge-, wink, wink, with the old kliegel muscles on purpose.

You say "Last year, she suddenly hated it". Did she communicate this to you at all over the past year? If so, then I kinda have a problem with you "sometimes" fooling with her on purpose and lying about it ("it's involuntary!"). I wouldn't call it sexual abuse, but it does feel like you were violating a poorly-communicated boundary.

Of course, if she didn't say anything at all to you about it, then I'm not sure what you could have done differently. I haven't kept up with your sitch, but just reading the last few pages shows me that she has some horrible issues that she is not dealing with at all.

Either way, I feel for your sitch and the fact that this is tearing your family apart. Especially with your son and his marital problems.