It is definitely hard seeing W getting in shape. H went out and bought a pretty much whole new wardrobe with OW's help. She picked out everything for him. Of course, most of it is more expensive than he would have ever bought before and very different, but at the same time it was things I was trying to get him to wear for years (and he even commented on that), but at the same time he did it because OW said it would be good for him and not me. It is really hard, but maybe, just maybe as she gets into shape and starts feeling better about herself, then she can focus on you and her.
It may not happen, but we have all learned that you have to fix yourself before you can really fix a M so it could be a positive.
I definitely feel for you and hope today you can quickly get back to your good place again.
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