Move over... I 'm moving back......

[sandycay]

The question of whether or not I would take him back is not answerable at this point because unless he showed personal growth by attending counseling before he came home it wouldn't happen. I am moving forward with a life without him and if he wakes up in time so be it, if not I will spend the rest of my days happy. I will find love again. Only with true change would I be happy with him. At this point, I see that as a fanstasy or a pipe dream if you will. So, I will not and do not bet on any reconcillation at all. I will be contacting an attorney in the next few days.

You are so right on about this. Unless he gets IC things would never truly change. I like the fact you asked him for the keys to the house. He's about to get a rude awakening. How old are your kids by the way? Is it realistic for them to spend that much time (weekend visitations, a few weeks during summer vacation, etc.) on a boat?

Addie,

My kids are Boy 15...daughter 13... you know it rains where I live a lot during the winter so up here it would be a drag but down in FL there would be stuff to do on boat ya know... you could get in the water and such. Not my problem... our kids have already informed him they dont' wanna spend much time there. My D doesn't like the boat we own now. Of course, she's never been on a boat like what he is looking at purchasing.
It is not realistic to think they would spend more than a night here and there on the boat. What would they do? You can't really swim in the water here even in the summer... it's to cold... It's not like he's gonna take his vacation to keep them in the summer for me.
He doesn't understand that it is not providing them with a home and space to call theirs at his house. They will just be visitors and guest...I am sure it will have at least two staterooms but you can't sleep on a pull out couch in the salon of a boat and feel like your at home. They need that from him but what they need isn't as important as what he wants.

This means I will do the kids 99 percent of the time. That's ok.. they are old enough that I can get out and about and they can stay at home by themselves... shame they would rather do that then spend time with their dad. I really hope that changes and I will do what I can to help facilitate that.

I will have a good relationship with the H for the well being of our kids.