Move over... I 'm moving back......

[sandycay]

You will definitely be awarded rehabilitative spousal support. Your final divorce decree should have wording that says that the need for spousal support is subject to review later. This means the court may look at the facts of a case and determine if spousal support should be continued, discontinued, or the amount changed.

I think it is best that you have the 2 lawyers negotiate for a settlement. Your H is delusional and will be difficult for you to personally negotiate with so as you get a fair deal. Too much emotion involved on both your parts. Treat the thing like a business deal and all should work out. You H is going to notice his financial situation change drastically because of his choices.

Thanks for that info kerry. He keeps thinking he's doing me a favor by paying for the school and I couldnt' help but remind him the judge would make him do it anyway. He doesn't want a lawyer...He thinks it's a waste of money. We maybe be able to agree on things financially. He wants to give me the house and the equity which in this market itsn't much so I will look into that. Also, military retirement, Part of Boeing retirement, Part of American Airlines retirement... problem is that's a long time away from now so I need to support myself now.

He was always good about money before when he left taking care of us. He was more than generous to the fact he went without and we had plenty. That's not fair to him and we need a more realistic resolution. We need to get the financial seperated as quickly as possible because that is what causes hin the most frustration. I understand I am a monkey on his back but I hope to be able to get off as soon as possible and make my own way.... it will just take time. But until I can do that ... We really need to seperate it so it won't be a source of frustration for him therefore, effect our ability to parent our chilren without all the drama.

I am glad that it looks like that won't be the case.