No one said piecing was gonna be easy...

[sage]

You know, my H was right when he told me I make 'everything about me.' I had been thinking his sudden departure this morning and his not saying ILY, and his rushing where related to something I had said or done, or not said or done, but they can well have been he had to meet this person and had forgotten... I mean it is really not about me, is it?

Ah...I heard the same from my h during the bomb dropping...and he was right. I attributed every action, reaction or non-action of his to something that I was doing. It's hard work but it's really liberating (for both of you!) to recognize that it ISN'T about you...really.

BTW, I had also been thinking maybe his poor mood earlier in the morning was because he did not read the court notice I showed him yesterday (very typical of him: he does not see what he does not want to see), so I had been planning to call him and ask him about it. I think I'll let it rest.

i think it's a good plan to give it a rest...plus how about letting go of some of the ASSumptions in this paragraph...trying to attribute a "bad mood" of h's to something (heck, even diagnosing him with a "bad mood"?) and assigning something as "very typical of him".... I get very stuck when h decides that something is "very typical" of me...how about you?

Sage