Gardener, I read your "request" on Gypsy's thread. So here I am reading because I am curious. I have only read your last post.
First off, anybody who would call spooning (and resulting involuntary muscle development) sexual abuse is not working on all cylinders. If that was true, I am also a sexual abuser....BULLSH!T.

On the stepchildren issue, I also have Xstep children and I keep a safe distance because blood is thick....I wait for them to initiate contact and I never comment on their mom regardless of what they may bring up.