Changing Man

[Gnosis]

Gardener, I've been following your thread for a long time. I've never commented before, but I saw you're reaching out for help. I'm not an expert and I haven't posted my sitch.

Firstly, you have my deepest EMpathy. I feel for you. IMHO ffor what she has done and is doing she doesn't even deserve the title alien - ahem, they had a reason for living and ensuring their survival. Your creature however is hellbent on the destruction of everything "you."

Personally, I feel that your son deserves to know why his marriage is being destroyed. It doesn't matter what he thinks of your wife, short of psychiatric treatment there is nothing that can be done for her.

However, on the other hand, this information on your wife could perhaps be useful to save his own marriage. I believe you should share this information with him and let him decide whether to pursue it further with his wife's parents. Your STBXW is doing everything in her power to destroy his life. It's only fair that you do everything in yours to save his marriage.

As for the stepkids, confront them with the new information and see how they feel. IF they are lost and are so heavily influenced by their mother, so be it.

So far she has been a terrorist fighting a covert war, its time to defend yourself with everything you've got.

I wish I could offer more advice. The good side of this is that you finally know the truth. Good luck Gman.