Sad to be here

[Norm914]

I want to thank you all. Even though I haven’t posted much, I read every day, and I learn.

I especially want to thank Puppy and Trent. I learn so much from your posts.

Tonight I received a long e-letter (word doc attached to an email) from my W. Of course, it was all R talk. Before coming here I would have made the mistake of answering and rebutting her R talk. And I would have screwed myself further. And that is exactly what she would expect me to do.

But, thanks to you guys, I paused. I thought, “This is R talk. Don’t respond right away and when or if you do just say, ‘I understand’” in some form or fashion. Think before you speak, if you speak at all.

She wrote., “ If you want or need to talk, let me know. We can talk over the phone if that’s easier. Or, we can communicate in writing if that’s better.” Underlying tone was “it’s over”.

We’ve known each other for 22 years. The old Norm, the one I was and the one she knew, would have been pounding away at the keyboard, anxious to have his say. But that ain’t gonna happen. I’m going to stay silent and let her wonder why I haven’t responded until it drives her nuts.

I know her. Within a few days she’ll ask/text/email, “Did you get my letter?” I want to have the right answer if there is such a thing.

Please help.