Hi Opt,

I was going to post, then read Shiny's post and decided not too, then read totite's and decided to go ahead!

I do like her idea of paying for job placement services. I know the company I was with when they decided to go a different direction found me another possible job with one of their clients. So far it has worked out pretty descent. Doesn't pay quite as well. But lots less stress.

Anyway that was going to be my question is why not drop it and if you needed to reinitiate the D?

David's reasons are:
1. He isn't sure he doesn't want the d and doesn't want to have to get himself through all of this again.

2. His is also financial. He couldn't really afford to do this the first time, put the A retainer and filing fees on his credit card. Complains to me about debt!

I was concerned about the amount of money spent at first, but Calystra said she bet if she said if I paid her $5000.00 and she could guarantee that David would love me and come back to the marriage she bet somehow someway I would come up with the money. She is right! So that puts the money in a much lower perspective for me than it was in the beginning. Doesn't help David's perspective but did mine at least.

I promise I am going to shut up on this cause it is WAY to close to home for me to be unbiased and any sort of logical.

Good luck with your decision.

Pam

"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned
so as to have the life that is waiting for us"