The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

Well let's see since I last updated I drove to my SS's wedding and the wife went as well in seperate cars of course. She asked if she could stay in the hotel room with me and my daughter. I told her sure as long as it was in bed with my daughter. She tried to flirt with me in the room and hinted that she wanted to sleep in the same bed as me. No dice. Fast forward to today. We went out on a date. Part of my stipulation to her wanting to come home--we date and she signs up for and completes 12 sessions of counseling. She has not signed up for counseling and said she will not until I "friend" her on FB and that she doesn't need to go to counseling. Yeah, good luck with that. Weird how someone who wants to come home and screwed up as bad as she did is stipulating how things should go.

Our "date" was a bit awkward. The place we orginally were going to go to was crowded so I suggested somewhere else and she didn't like that. I suggested two other places and she didn't like them either. I said, fine, just drop me at home and you can go where you want or you can quit pretending I can read you mind and tell me where you want to eat. She said, I don't care. So I went to another place and of course she started bitching. Perfect start, right? She said that she was really hungry and grouchy--really, really? I couldn't tell. It got a little better after she started eating and she talked a lot about work and how she was getting asked out, etc. Fast forward a bit to coffee at starbucks.

She says, I really want to come home but I'm tired of waiting and the payoff doesn't seem worth it. I'm thinking, hmmmm, wow, I guess spending the rest of your life with me doesn't seem appealing? And you don't want to see your daughter grow up? Ok, whatever. She contradicted herself when one minute she was saying that she doesn't do anything but work, eat, and sleep and the next minute she was saying that she's really social going out a lot. She told me she didn't have any money either. Then she told me she wasn't going to wait much longer if I didn't let her come home and that she didn't want to hear it later when she started dating and I couldn't say I wanted her back then. I didn't say anything, just listened.

So, it still seems to be about her. All I heard tonight was bitch, bitch, bitch, bitch. Not a lot of positives. On the way home as she dropped me off she did apologize for being grouchy at the beginning of the date and that she enjoyed herself. Ok, I didn't really get that---it didn't appear to me that she enjoyed herself. She also mentioned that she wanted someone who was going to cherish her and that she got a lot of attention now(I suspect that she was hinting to me that she wanted a lot of attention from me). I just listened and acted like nothing bothered me.

So, out of this her actions and attitude seem to contradict each other. Additionally, it seems like while she want to come home, she thinks she can dictate how she is going to come home. Weird, if I was in the situation, she wouldn't entertain any demands from me, I'm quite sure.